Loads of blokes suffer from problems in the bedroom from time-to-time. It’s totally normal to get overexcited and struggle with maintaining a strong erection. In fact, experts estimate that up to one in three guys has experienced premature ejaculation.
“We don’t know precisely how many men have it because embarrassment stops many of them from seeking medical help, but it may be up to a third of men,” Dr Sarah Jarvis, clinical director of Patient.info told The Sun. “It can have a huge impact on confidence and often affects relationships, and can even lead to depression. In fact, I often see men coming in for the first time to talk about it when it has led to the break-up of a relationship.”
But just because it’s a common issue, that doesn’t mean that you can’t do anything about it. Men’s Health has put together a four-step gym plan for strengthening erections and reducing the chances of shooting too early. Part one deals with the premature ejaculation and part two is all about strengthening your performance in the bedroom.
3 sets of 30 reps. 3-4 times a week
Think Kegel exercises are only for women? Think again. All men should be doing them – whether you’ve got any issues or not – because everyone can benefit from stronger pelvic muscles. They help to improve bladder and bowel control, which can prevent any leaking from happening. And they also help achieve erection and prevent premature ejaculation.
- Squeeze the muscles you’d use to stop a stream of pee and hold that contraction for up to two seconds – being careful not to use any other muscles but those deep pelvic ones
Sometimes performing missionary can be quite hard on the arms and shoulders, so this move will help condition you for sustaining the position for longer.
- Stand with your feet slightly wider than shoulder-width apart
- Bend over and place your hands on the floor – keeping your legs and arms straight as you do so (bending from the hips)
- That’s the start of the position. Now dive your upper body towards the floor before bending backward and straightening the arms, looking upwards
- Go back to the starting position and go again
Squats are fantastic full-body moves which help to tighten the core, the glutes, the pelvic muscles – and by adding weights, also the arms.
- Stand feet shoulder-width apart, holding a weight up to the chest
- Push your hips back and bend your knees to lower your weight – making sure to keep your weight in your heels and not the toes
- Drive your heels into the floor to push yourself back up to the start
3 sets, 10 reps
Everyone could do with a little more thrusting practice, right?
- Sit on the ground with your shoulder blades resting on the bench
- Hold your weight on upper thigh, arms straight
- Bend to touch bum down to the ground
- Then hinge back up, leaning back onto the bench – hips in the air
- So when you’re up, you should have a straight line from shoulders to knees – feet always stay rooted to the ground
- You should feel this in the bum and the backs of the legs
Hip thrusts are also amazing for women too (less for thrusting, more for strong butt muscles!).
It’s actually one the moves that Victoria’s Secret models do before their shows. So why not practice them with your partner?
So, is there anything else you can do besides these moves to improve things – without resorting to drugs?
Dr Jarvis told us that there are several easy lifestyle hacks you can try to reduce your chances of premature ejaculation, including:
1. Wearing a condom
Wrapping up can reduce sensation which may buy you a bit of time because sex won’t feel as intense. Condoms are also the only form of contraception which protect you from STIs…and there’s nothing like a venereal disease to put you off getting down and dirty, is there?
2. Changing position
Having sex more often and getting your partner to go on top may help to delay the inevitable. Any excuse!
3. Try the “start-stop” method
This involves stopping sex just before you orgasm, and waiting for your erection to subside a bit before going again.,
Ideally, you should try that three times before allowing yourself to orgasm.
You might need to practice a bit in order to recognise when you’re about to blow.
4. Give it a squeeze
Squeezing the head of your penis for a few seconds just before you orgasm is another variation of the “start-stop” method.
It might be worth getting your partner to do this for you in order to keep the mood going and to help you relax.
This article originally appeared on The Sun and was republished here with permission.